“As adults, we must ask more of our children than they know how to ask themselves. What can we do to foster their openhearted hopefulness, engage their need to collaborate, be an incentive to utilize their natural competency and compassion… show them ways they can connect, reach out, weave themselves into the web of relationships that is called community.” ~ Dawna Markova.
I wonder what kind of parent I would be – a nag, hovering over homework? A spoiler who overindulges? Would I have made a good teacher and could I inspire even kids that are desperately in need of as “naughty chair” and a long visit from Super Nanny?

Tina Valentino Editor/Publisher
The only thing that I know for sure is what I have seen with my own eyes. The best parent or adult role model is not always the wealthiest or most prominent in the community, someone who is able to secure a desk in the most expensive schools and placement in the finest extracurricular activities. The catalyst to greatness and compassion is rarely money and privilege. A willingness to wonder, work hard and have someone believe in you are factors that are more likely to create contributors to society. Rachel Carson wrote: If a child is to keep his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in. Those who think money and status make better parents and role models have never met Chris Zorich. I haven’t seen Chris in several years yet I continue to be inspired by his story, which he shared with me, and his philanthropy, which he shares with thousands of families. He stood in food lines; he stuttered; he was bi-racial; his mother rummaged through the trash behind supermarkets for discarded food; she hit fly balls to him in the park in the absence of the father he never met. Despite all the strikes against him, Chris Zorich prevailed, earning athletic honors as well as eternal gratitude for his decency and kindness.
Certain experiences stay with you and shape you. Just before Christmas, I had the opportunity to accompany a mom and her 8-year old son as they delivered gifts to a local convent of 28 Sisters. He was dressed up in his Santa suit and tolerated countless hugs and kisses from strangers; but it was how he tolerated a visit to a room a seriously ill, bedridden Sister that impressed me the most. His mother had done something I rarely see – she wasn’t waiting in line in the middle of the night to buy his present, she was his present, helping him discover the mystery of the world we live in. As I told the story to friends and relatives over the holiday, I was reminded of the third grade teacher at Our Lady of Mount Carmel, Mrs. Pesce, who made visiting the sick and aged at Villa Scalabrini and singing carols a Christmas ritual. It wasn’t supposed to be fun – it was meant to foster openhearted hopefulness, to weave students in the web of relationships that is called Community.
Children need your presence more than your presents, Jesse Jackson is quoted as saying. I will always wonder what kind of parent I would have been; but, if you have children, you can use the gift of as a new year to spend time, not money, and build character instead of walls between your children and life.
Tina Valentino is the Editor and Publisher of Neighbors, a FREE publication that spotlights the western suburbs and partners advertisers with award-winning stories. Neighbors Magazine – “Everyone has one” is distributed each month via high-traffic retail and/or commercial outlets throughout Bellwood, Berkeley, Elmwood Park, Forest Park, Franklin Park, Hillside, Maywood, Melrose Park, Northlake, North Riverside, Oak Park, River Forest, River Grove, Schiller Park, Stone Park and Westchester. www.neighborsmagazine.com